Your husband bought you a bouquet of your favourite flowers today just because he adores you, maybe your wife made your favourite dinner because she knew how much you were dreading that 3 hour meeting with your boss today, maybe your kiddo just laughed for the first time at their own fart, all of these moments are something we want to remember because they make us smile. Now in the days of technology our first instinct can be to take a picture to brag about our amazing little lives and share with people who care (and people who will just eye roll at the very post about any small moments). I’m sure at this point at least a few of you are like, so what?
There is no shame in sharing your life. Some people choose to share their highlights, some choose to share everything, some have been criticized into sharing nothing.
I think we are all critical to a point, I know I was always pretty guilty of this and it is something i work on daily. There is a lot of beauty in the diversity of our lives, we shouldn’t be rolling our eyes at each other we should be celebrating alongside one another. I think that if you lose 10lbs you should tell people, not wait until it’s the 30 you feel like you need to lose. Your kiddo finally ate a vegetable today, AWESOME! You are pampering yourself today with a pedi because the kids have been sick for two weeks, you go mama! You were able to bathe both dogs and celebrate that you don’t have kids with a nap? wahoo!
For me, I am guilty of judging those who post negatively about their significant others; without thinking my opinion of that person’s relationship is forever changed. Your husband is being a useless shit today and didn’t do anything you asked of him and you’re tired and so you vent to your people online. Now that I’m a bit older and I have an accumulation of friends that aren’t a walking distance away, I kinda get it. I think it’s safe to say we all react differently to most things in life, so maybe before we all roll our eyes at a friend having a hard day, maybe they just need to know they aren’t alone in the world and they’re winning for not killing their husband today.
This is a long-winded way of me telling you to not be ashamed of finding silver linings in your life. As we grow into a version of ourselves that is a little less petty and a little less judgemental to others, we do the same for ourselves.
The next time you put on lipstick, celebrate.
The next time you buy clothes without complaining about your “problem areas” rejoice!
The next time you make a sandwich that tastes like heaven on earth, enjoy every damn bite.
When you start to love yourself, don’t keep that to yourself! what if you change the mindset of just one person that same day? it’s not obnoxious, it’s worth announcing that you find yourself worthy of celebration.
You don’t need to post everything on social media to enjoy it, don’t think I am suggesting that, BUT, if you want to shout it from the rooftops that your husband made the best damn dinner in 3 years of being together, don’t feel like you have to keep it to yourself. As humans we are often quick to judge; so my advice for anyone and everyone to start doing is when you feel the eye roll coming on, try to put yourself in their shoes for a minute and think about why they might have felt the need to say or do what they did (granted sometimes people are just ludacris and looking for a fight). Are we maybe rolling our eyes at the good stuff out of jealousy? rolling our eyes at the bad stuff because we are looking down on their way of coping?
Try and be positive to yourself and to others. Enjoy your life, brag wherever you see fit and keep whatever you choose to yourself. Don’t do anything that isn’t for the good of your own life. Maybe zero people will actually care that you are 35 weeks pregnant and you somehow put socks on but celebrate it anyways, let’s be honest, I think we would all be impressed with it.
I encourage anyone who reads this to post about something good in their lives, small or big, self-love related or not, find the light in your life and share it. We all deserve to find a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day, right?